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I think it's child abuse to circumcise your child. It should be illegal.

It's a completely irreversible unnecessary procedure, and most of the time it's made for an infant who is not capable of making said choices for themselves. Circumcision is essentially legal mutilation.

One excuse is that it's mainly done for hygiene and health reasons other than a religious aspect. Except, there are no health reasons unless a doctor recommends it. And hygiene can be taught.

There are numerous reports of physicians screwing this up and mutilating babies too.

It simply does not need to be done, and can be done with consent when the child comes of age if they so choose for religious reasons.

Also, sanitation argument for circumcision ended when personal home showers became a thing. It's not hard to clean your junk regardless of how much extra skin is attached.

Religious freedom bills are another excuse. They've already been used as a defense for all kinds of things including child abuse. If these lunatics get a firm foothold on abortion, wait and see what comes next.
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What kind of society is that one which doesn't know how to respond to a serious problem like child rape, and resorts to the only solution it can think of, the death penalty?

India's death penalty for rapists of young girls could push them to kill
With the majority of rapes committed by someone known to the victim, the new law could drive offenders to murder to avoid detection.

Child rape has been a painful subject in India for a long time. The government always responds impulsively to each prominent case, with ad hoc measures that are only meant to calm the passions for a while - until the next case. The general knee-jerk reaction is to further tighten the legislation. Evidently they cannot come up with any other ideas. The rulers in India must believe they could change the so called public climate in the country with restrictive, even cruel measures.

This time is no exception. The same ad hoc approach is being applied here, and it won't achieve anything. The death penalty will not change the culture that has existed in Indian society for so many years. It is quite telling that after the latest child rape case, that of a 8 year old kid (ending with a murder), even members of the ruling party tried to influence the court and block the culprit's conviction.

This is not how normal human beings should treat other human beings. There can be no place for cultural excuses or political compromises about this. Not in India, not in any other place. Unless a government that is meant to be by the people and for the people articulates this as a problem that needs complex solutions instead of just killing people in yet another knee-jerk ad-hoc reaction to the latest horrible case, nothing will be achieved. And the problem will remain there to haunt the presumably largest democracy in the world.
[identity profile] nairiporter.livejournal.com
This might be somewhat vaguely related to a post from a while ago.

Inside the outrageous world of child cage fighting: Tiny boys who are trained to attack each other in America's baby MMA arenas
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2487527/Inside-world-child-cage-fighting-Boys-trained-attack-MMA-arenas.html

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I hear this is becoming a big thing in the US, with about 3 million kids arguably being regular participants in what is colloquially called cage fighting at this point. The issue has sparked a lot of controversy, so I would be interested to hear as many opinions on the issue as possible.

As much as I could gain some understanding on the issue so far, the two opposing views tend to look like this in a nutshell:

View 1 vs View 2 )
[identity profile] prog-expat.livejournal.com

Oi. Where to begin?

It should be apparent to anybody that knows me even a little that I'm not a "drown it in the bathtub" sort when it comes to government. Fix it, don't sabotage it or destroy it outright. While there are a lot of things wrong with government in the US, I don't see us at a point where it's time to douse the whole thing in gasoline and light a match.

That said, there are some things that absolutely have to go (list not comprehensive) )
[identity profile] telemann.livejournal.com




This morning, Pope Benedict XVI announced his resignation effective February 28, 2013, and cited his fragility and inability to perform the duties of office. Last week, I was able to view the new HBO documentary Mea Maxima Culpa - Silence in the House of God , some of the worst cases of priest abuse in the United States (e.g predator priest Rev. Lawrence C. Murphy (the administrator of a Milwaukee archdiocesan school for deaf children and teenagers) abused over 200 victims, and was never prosecuted or defrocked by the Catholic church. Prior to watching this, I had not known the current Cardinal of New York (Timothy M. Dolan) when he was the Archbishop of Milwaukee, was responsible for actively hiding church monetary resources from the priest-abuse victims. Four of those abused by Father Murphy: Terry Kouhut, Gary Smith, Pat Kuehn and Arthur Budzinsk were outraged at the hierarchy's lack of action to do anything, ultimately sued the Vatican and forced the release of documents. The documentary is that story told against the broader one of priest abuse around the world.


Although none went to the police, some priests attempted, over the years, to take action. As instructed by canon law, they informed their superiors, including the Vatican, but most of the predators were either left where they were or simply sent "on retreat" before being circulated to other, often poorer, parishes.

When in 2002, scandal erupted in Boston, resulting in the arrest of priests, the payout of millions of dollars in restitution and the ouster of Cardinal Bernard Law (who, as the film points out, was "punished" by being given a lavish stipend and a high-profile position in Italy), the Vatican attempted to distance itself from the problem, first characterizing the abuse as "an American problem." But similar abuse was soon revealed in churches all over the world, particularly in Ireland, where one notorious predator had been known to the local archdiocese and the Vatican for more than 20 years. He was defrocked only after the demands of angry parents resulted in the priest's arrest.

Gibney [the documentary's producer / director ] takes great pains to point out that every sex abuse case, including Murphy's, went directly to the office of then-Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger, head of the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith from 1981 until 2005 and now Pope Benedict XVI. Yet year after year, known pedophiles such as Murphy were allowed to remain free and to remain priests, often in parishes where they had access to children. It was only after Kouhut and other victims filed a civil suit against the Vatican, that the church was forced to release documents making it clear that in many cases officials knew about the abuse and refused to act. The message of "Mea Maxima Culpa" is clear: No member of the hierarchy of the Catholic Church is innocent in this almost unbelievably ubiquitous wave of abuse, and certainly not the man who sits in his cloak of infallibility at its head. But it took the courage of a few literally voiceless men to finally say so.1


There have been calls (particularly in Ireland) for prosecution of Joseph Ratzinger because of his involvement in preventing abusive priests from being defrocked or removed. After several government inquiries into priest abuse and the role of the Vatican, Ireland's government was so outraged, it broke off diplomatic relations with the Vatican, and recalled its ambassador. And when you see the documents and several of the cases (one of the most outrageous case involved a priest who was an Elvis impersonator). I'm pretty sure arresting a former pope isn't likely, but I entertain some hope that new Pope will be more concerned with the child abuse problem and give it a higher priority, since the issue is going to only get worse as cases from Central and South America, and especially Africa come to light. And by more concern: I mean concernfor the victims; and stop blaming them. I also certainly hope there are more prosecutions of former priests and bishops for their criminal involvement in protecting them.

Trailer for Mea Maxima Culpa: Silence in the House of God:




Resources:


Voice of the Faithful.Voice of the Faithful is a lay organization of faithful Catholics, who organized in 2002 as a response to the sexual abuse crisis in the Catholic Church. We started in the basement of a church in Wellesley, Massachusetts, and have since expanded worldwide with more than 30,000 members.


National Child Abuse Hotline Childhelp ® is a leading national non-profit organization dedicated to helping victims of child abuse and neglect. Childhelp's approach focuses on prevention, intervention and treatment.


Male Survivor Male survivor is committed to preventing, healing, and eliminating all forms of sexual victimization of boys and men through support, treatment, research, education, advocacy, and activism.


Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests.


Joyful Heart Foundation The Joyful Heart Foundation works to foster a community that turns toward the issues of sexual assault, domestic violence and child abuse.


National Association of the Deaf. The NAD is the nation's premier civil rights organization of, by and for deaf and hard of hearing individuals in the United States of America.




A performance of Giovanni da Palestrina's stunning motet Tu es Petrus, at the Basilica of St. John Lateran, which by the way is the Pope's official cathedral, NOT St. Peter's. Tu es Petrus is the quotation from Matthew where Jesus declared Peter the Rock of the Church, the basis of the Petrine primacy cited by the earliest Bishops of Rome and subsequent theologians.





[identity profile] papasha-mueller.livejournal.com


I knew things are bad, I didn't know it is THAT bad.

No, I don't say that US adopts children from Romania because Romania is the only country where things are even worse - quite wrong: Romania banned the adoption of it's children by foreigners back in 2004 by special demand of EC.
In fact, it was one of conditions for it's accession.

A friend of mine suggests US have a policy of getting 'adults only' onboard by means of various immigration programmes, this probably make sense, but these adults don't stay childfree for long...

Anyway, WYSIWYG.

I guess, things can be turned to better but hardly in the environment of a sequence of QDs. Some people say America is bankrupt. Maybe yes, maybe no - but for sure, starting January 1st life is going to be harder.

PS. In the meantime, bad-bad-bad boy Putin seems to adopt a policy of French cinema stars adoption. Good for them - bearing in mind 13% taxation. They gonna not starve and die.

PPS. Source: http://www.unicef-irc.org/publications/pdf/rc10_eng.pdf


[identity profile] nairiporter.livejournal.com
I recently learned about the deeply moving story of the mother of a 2-grade pupil at the school where I am deputy principal, who had recently become a surrogate mother. Maybe because I have an adopted child myself, a 5 year old boy from Haiti, it struck a chord. This woman is a poor white Afrikaner from the suburbs of the big city, someone who has lived alone for years and who is barely able to make ends meet in this new South Africa where people like her no longer have the privileges they used to have under apartheid. She is looking after her little daughter but is having very hard times.

So, when a German family decided to use the opportunity that the local legislation provides for surrogacy, she was there in the list. And she agreed to give birth to their child, actually two children - twins. They provided the genetic material, it was implanted in her, and earlier this year she gave birth to the babies. The South African legislation allows surrogacy, but there were some serious complications from the German side, because in Germany, surrogacy is considered "immoral and unethical", and the German family almost saw the whole process failing, but for the intervention of a skillful lawyer who was eventually able to find a stipulation in the EU legislation, allowing the father to claim parentage. The story has a happy ending for the twins and the family. The surrogate mother? It's more complicated.

Anyway... long story short, they managed to get the twins, and this poor woman remained here, probably a few thousand dollars more secure than before the whole affair. But what must have remained as well is an emptiness in her, after the children she had given birth to, were voluntarily taken away from her. And I can imagine their new/genetic parents must be having some difficulties back in Germany, coping with the social stigma that comes along with having surrogate children there. Because it is "immoral and unethical"...

I have been to that clinic that provides the surrogacy service a couple of times before. The people I have seen sitting in the waiting room are from all around the world. And they don't come to South Africa for the safari. They want to have children. People from Europe, Australia, Canada... the one thing that could be seen in their eyes, is hope. Hope for an ending of their desperation, as many of them are unable to have children for one reason or another. And, hope and desperation must have been what has moved all those women who have agreed to "lend" their bodies to carry the children for these people.

Read more... )
[identity profile] nairiporter.livejournal.com

This is Ye Shiwen, one of the many Chinese wonder-kids. As of Thursday, she has already won 2 gold medals in swimming on the Olympics. She is 16 years old, and indeed a true prodigy.

Her performance has been stunning. She keeps putting one world record after another, and makes it look too easy. In one of the races she even beat the scores of some of the men in the respective disciplines, including Michael Phelps.

Naturally, rumours started creeping in about the Chinese manipulating the doping tests, but Ye and her team adamantly deny all accusations.

What is the truth, actually? )
[identity profile] malasadas.livejournal.com
I try my best to live by the motto of not judging others too harshly, especially on parenting choices. I think my wife and I do a decent job with our kids, but I know for a fact that there are no end to the number of people who would judge us based upon how we feed them, what we let them watch and heck even our decision to have them sleep in their own damned room. The world is chock full of people who see fit to negatively judge how other people raise their kids.

But you know, everyone has their limits and I just crashed right through mine.

Short version: Mother of a child on Toddlers and Tiaras reveals that the secret to her daughter's boundless energy during pageants is a home mixed soda concoction with the equivalent caffeine of two cups of coffee.

This may actually be the worst thing I have ever read that did not actually qualify as a hate crime.
[identity profile] enders-shadow.livejournal.com

Each day, hundreds of schoolchildren appear before courts in Texas charged with offences such as swearing, misbehaving on the school bus or getting in to a punch-up in the playground. Children have been arrested for possessing cigarettes, wearing "inappropriate" clothes and being late for school.

In 2010, the police gave close to 300,000 "Class C misdemeanour" tickets to children as young as six in Texas for offences in and out of school, which result in fines, community service and even prison time. What was once handled with a telling-off by the teacher or a call to parents can now result in arrest and a record that may cost a young person a place in college or a job years later....

Among the more extreme cases documented by Appleseed is of a teacher who had a pupil arrested after the child responded to a question as to where a word could be found in a text by saying: "In your culo (arse)", making the other children laugh. Another pupil was arrested for throwing paper aeroplanes.


-http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2012/jan/09/texas-police-schools?INTCMP=SRCH

Shocked, shocked! am I to hear of this from Texas.
No seriously, wtf?

Kids doing kid stuff is normal and shouldn't be penalized under law. Talk about trying to do social engineering! Talk back to your teacher and WE ARREST YOU.
WTF?!

Hell no. I disagree with this. I cannot imagine who actually likes this.
Do you? Can you?
[identity profile] mintogrubb.livejournal.com
An American Protestant Pastor has come under fire for giving advice on how parents should punish their children. Pastor Pearl has been criticised on the website "Fundies Say The Darndest Things" for insisting that one has #got~ to beat babies under a year old in order to "break their will". Although not in court himself for his views, a few cases have come to light where parents stated that they followed the advice in his book, and this has lead to calls for sites like Amazon to withdraw it.

http://www.nytimes.com/2011/11/07/us/deaths-put-focus-on-pastors-advocacy-of-spanking.html?_r=2#38;adxnnl=1&hpw=&adxnnlx=1320674969-sOIfVIDXhA0ZvUClDPWjbw&pagewanted=all#

Ok, that's the story. however, it highlights a deeper problem. Read more... )
[identity profile] malasadas.livejournal.com
A few days ago, [livejournal.com profile] underlankers posted about a proposed ban on circumcision in San Francisco and specifically the horrendous anti-Semitic comic book drawn by a leading supporter of the ban.

I will confess that the ensuing discussion depressed me utterly.

I hope that I am not badly misrepresenting posters' contributions, but I was personally taken aback by how few addressed [livejournal.com profile] underlankers original observation about the absolute dripping Jew hatred in the portrayal of "Monster Mohel" as a supervillian, complete with hooked nose, scraggly beard and Hasidic dress. If anything has ever been more intended to play off of millenia old stereotypes of Jews in recent years, I haven't seen it.

I read more deeply regarding the controversy around circumcision as a violation of a baby's human rights and got a smidge more depressed as it got me thinking about what exactly are the LIMITS on cultural tolerance and acceptance and how we balance concern for human rights with fully understanding cultural practices that are not our own.

Oi vey, another text cut... )
[identity profile] dreadfulpenny81.livejournal.com
I've been disgusted in the past by how the children of politicians are treated by the media and the general public and it seems to have gotten worse in the past 24 hours.

Read more... )
[identity profile] green-man-2010.livejournal.com
Ok - have a link.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SPzVUGE3dds

Wanna know what's in it ?
Well, Patrick Stewart, who is regarded as a serious Shakespearian stage actor, as well as someone who acheived international TV stardom due to his performance as Star Ship Captain Jean Luc Picard
has come forward to say thathe experienced domestic violence as a child, and that spousal abuse, violence against women and abuse directed against children in the home should not be tolerated in society but it is. Read more... )
[identity profile] green-man-2010.livejournal.com
Ok, I am a union man, not just a union member, but someone who was once trained as a Health and Safety Officer. It was my job to kep an eye on things. I was trained to carry out risk assessments then follow through on implementing safguards - everything from routine inspections to showing people the safe way to do the job - everything from lifting and carrying heavy loads to storing corrosive chemicals. COSHH regulations, Fire regulations, food hygiene regulations - this was the stuff I had to learn, and know and work with.

All in all, I believe that regulations in industry are neccessary. They make life safer for everyone. When you let industry regulate itself, you get stuff like the BP oil spill happening.
But it seems to me that lately, in Britain at least, the regulations have been made by people who don't see to have a clue. Read more... )
[identity profile] malasadas.livejournal.com
A few Fridays ago, my wife and I had ABC's What Would You Do? on...I know, I know -- that was a big mistake right there. What can I say? The kids were asleep and it was one of those weeks where the effort to either find something else to watch or just turn off the damned TV did not seem worth it.

The episod was posing questions about getting involved in situations where a child or pet was in danger. The first segment was fairly straight forward: using a lifelike baby doll and a recording, they set up baby locked in a closed car on a hot day, and then using a hidden air conditioning unit to keep the dog safe, they set up a dog locked in the same car. I say this is straightforward because I've thought about this situation and am pretty damned sure, that seeing it I'd call 911 immediately and likely break a window right quick. You have to be pretty uninformed to not know the extreme danger involved, and it was fairly depressing to not only see people walk by oblivious but how many noticed and still did nothing.

The next segment got me fairly irritated. )
[identity profile] sealwhiskers.livejournal.com
Recent events with a 6 year old boy adopted from Russia by a family from Tennessee and then sent home on a plane alone, only a year later made me ponder the issue of privilege, wealth and children. The Tennessee case has now lead to Russia putting a temporary hold on adoptions from Russia to the US until matters have been investigated.
Authorities have also reported that fourteen Russian children have died of abuse in the US during the last decade.

Just to make it clear: this is not a problem exclusive to the US, but a problem that exists in all wealthy countries that deal with international adoption on any larger scale. In Sweden there was a public discussion in 2006 leading to some suggestions in tightening laws around adoption, after a scandal after a Romani boy from the Czech Republic was suspected to have been abused to death by his Swedish foster parents.
The new law discussion (which lead to some changes)circulated around such facts as:

*International adoption deals with around half a million kids/year

*Since the 1950's when it started, international adoptions have been run by private organizations, dependent on adoption fees (usually between $7000-30000 depending on case and country)

* In most adopting countries some form of initial investigation is made of the family willing to adopt, either by social services or the agency, but since the host country (a country of significantly weaker economy than the adopting country) is incredibly eager to adopt children away, the agencies are in need of money for their expenses, and since the home investigation is seen as an intrusion by the investigated parents, it is often not as thorough an affair as it perhaps should be.

* This has lead to many wealthy families being able to adopt, in spite of having mental heath issues or even addiction problems within their ranks.

Basically, what the articles and discussions bluntly were asking was: is it okay for these adults to adopt for their own sake primarily and not for the sake of the children?

Personally, I'm very much in favor of international adoption, I just think that there should be a stronger support system for the rights of the child, and that this support system must be driven independently from the agencies and by representatives from both countries in question.

The recent Tennessee case, is not by any means the worst example for how things can go wrong. I can definitely understand some of the problems that this (clearly unprepared) family faced in taking care of a child well beyond infancy in age, who lived his whole life without learning such basic things as parental bonding from an early age, learning conflict resolution, learning pride in ownership, and much more. But even though it doesn't seem like the boy was beaten or physically abused, I as a reader of the news articles about this incident couldn't help but react when I heard that the family had hurried to change the boy's name as soon as he reached his new country.

The boy's name was Artyom, but he was named Justin by his new parents, and while I think it's okay to change names so they sound more like the ones in the new country, I still can't shake that the boy was six years old already, and had probably bonded with his name. I can only hope that he had a saying in picking a new name, and what name that was suppose to be. It's a small thing, but just one of many actions that could be taken toward a sentient half grown individual in order to "mold" him/her into what the family really wants and has payed for in their own minds. And so your new kid gets sick, or has issues, and then you return him?

How much should the privilege of money be able to buy? And what rights do children have when they come from poverty into wealth? Do these children still have rights, even if their country of origin doesn't defend those rights, but sell them off to the highest bidder?

It would be interesting to hear how people think these rights could be improved, and if they should.
[identity profile] allhatnocattle.livejournal.com
Most people who don't like abortion, not even people who support that women have a right to this service. But there's a lot of people who would rather deny abortion under most if not all circumstances. For the Pro-Life supporters, abortion should be illegal, and therefore doctors who perform this should be fined or jailed and I assume so should the women who seek this out.

As I understand the views of Pro-Lifers... Under the most desperate circumstances rather then being aborted, the birth should take place, and child(ren)should be put up for adoption. There is a inherent problem with adoption that few want to discuss, that is treating kids as commodities.

When one pays to adopt a child, then a child is a commodity. If a child can be bought, then a child can be sold. Baby brokers(adoption agencies) charge $30-50,000 per kid. If a kid doesn't meet expectations there is a no return policy. That's not to say that the wealthy who are unsatisfied with their purchase don't try.

The most recent case saw a kid put on a plane, alone with a note "To whom it may concern... This child is mentally unstable. He is violent and has severe psychopathic issues," the letter said. "I was lied to and misled by the Russian Orphanage workers and director regarding his mental stability and other issues. ...After giving my best to this child, I am sorry to say that for the safety of my family, friends, and myself, I no longer wish to parent this child."

Perhaps this is simply a case of child abandonment, which is already a crime. These things happen and is always sad. But with adoption, the emotional investment is sub-par, and the financial commitment has certain expectations.

It would be tragic if this was a unique case, but unfortunately it's not. Children are treated as commodities by purchasers and sellers alike. While some, like this, have been returned, others have been beaten, abandoned and even murdered by adoptive parents.

Obviously better screening of new parents is necessary. Yet this still doesn't address the underlying issue; that children are being bought and sold like cars. Where there is profit, there will always be business.

I would suggest reproductive restraint and contraception prevention. Beyond that, when that fails, aborting the conceived where parenting is not desired. If one must adopt, it shouldn't be a financial transaction.

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