So he corners a young girl in a place she is not free to walk away from, and proceeds to initiate an inappropriate conversation that he suspected might be wrong (otherwise why wait for a private moment)... and then just because that person didn't get angry with him, ask him to stop, or walk away he can either perceive that obviously, deep down, "all black people are ok with racist jokes", so he can go about his life feeling comfortable in knowing he's not really a racist because he laughs at and tells racist jokes. Not that reacting negatively would have done anything but reinforced the stereotype of his view of "black people" either. Geez...
Real fucking macho btw too... I'd be willing to wager my bank accounts, house, cars and potential lifetime income that this pussy would NOT have initiated this experiment in the company of a 20-30 year old African American male.
I don't necessarily think there's a problem with asking questions like this, because really, how are you going to know... right? But there's a place and time for it and a much more tactful way to do it. If he was sitting around with a bunch of his friends, a couple of whom were African American, and popped this question to the group with a straight face... instead of laughing at the joke he just told... that's one thing...
But the whole relationship balance between a 20 year old male and a 16 year old girl, an instructor/ student relationship, the Caucasian/ African Black/White thing, etc... and the predator/prey ambush timing and leading your response by modeling it for you is what makes that whole exchange uncool. I mean really... I just think that was an abuse of his power. I hope he secretly regrets doing that to you.
Just curious, because by virtue of some time and experience you are naturally more assertive now... If you could go back to that ski lift, and respond differently to his douche-baggery? What would your response be? Would you have corrected him?
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Date: 1/4/10 21:30 (UTC)Real fucking macho btw too... I'd be willing to wager my bank accounts, house, cars and potential lifetime income that this pussy would NOT have initiated this experiment in the company of a 20-30 year old African American male.
I don't necessarily think there's a problem with asking questions like this, because really, how are you going to know... right? But there's a place and time for it and a much more tactful way to do it. If he was sitting around with a bunch of his friends, a couple of whom were African American, and popped this question to the group with a straight face... instead of laughing at the joke he just told... that's one thing...
But the whole relationship balance between a 20 year old male and a 16 year old girl, an instructor/ student relationship, the Caucasian/ African Black/White thing, etc... and the predator/prey ambush timing and leading your response by modeling it for you is what makes that whole exchange uncool. I mean really... I just think that was an abuse of his power. I hope he secretly regrets doing that to you.
Just curious, because by virtue of some time and experience you are naturally more assertive now... If you could go back to that ski lift, and respond differently to his douche-baggery? What would your response be? Would you have corrected him?