Look, I'm trying to find the most polite way to say this, but do you have ANY idea how insensitive you sound when you're talking to someone with an actual disability and telling them, "No, your experience and insight don't count, I have REAL suffering"? Because that's how you're coming off right now, intentionally or not. You're short, and it makes you sad - fine, I am not trying to tell you that how you feel about your shortness is wrong. And maybe you personally would feel better if you were taller. But when you tell not_hothead_yet that you're being "realistic" and "freaking honest", the subtext is that you think she's being UNrealistic and dishonest in being okay with her disability and not feeling self-loathing about it. And that's not cool.