"I don't think I'm the only short person who has felt this way. In fact I think not having issues is more unique, due to the social pressure and the simple fact that being different is almost never fun. "
Well, you'd be wrong. Take a look at the Little People of America.
Yeah, being different isn't usually a ton of fun but I haven't noticed it being a passel of suck either. As I said before, what sucks is other people's reactions. But people who react in a way that makes me angry or cringe isn't the sum total of my experience with non-freaks. And I'm not exactly the only disfigured person I know, I know other people who were subject to cruel ridicule worse than I ever got in my childhood (because my parents purposefully sent me to private schools where bullying and teasing were not tolerated in the slightest) That doesn't mean I have never been teased or bullied but I didn't have to deal with it every day all my childhood.
And I'm sorry you took everyone's attempt to help and support you in such a negative cynical way; the advice that its okay to be different is true, its just that not everyone respects that. Well guess what, there's assholes everywhere.
And if you think being short is the cause of your hellish upbringing you're probably only partially right. I have several friends, one of whom I am very close to, who are visually stunning. As in the kind of girl who gets asked "are you a model? you should be!" all the time. I see how she gets treated whenever we're together. But you know what? She was teased relentlessly in school because her family lives in a trailer park and she grew up trashy poor. She's a beautiful person inside AND out but the tales she's told me (and her family's told me) you'd never believe! because kids pick on whoever they feel like picking on and it doesn't matter what your weakness is because they'll exploit it regardless.
Your bitterness is all focused on being short. I'm not dismissing your pain at all and its annoying that you want to accuse me of that. I'm saying your focus is incorrect. You decided its all in the being short when really its all in the attitude of you and the people around you. If everywhere you went people exclaimed "OMG YOU ARE THE MOST GORGEOUS THING EVAR!" eventually you'd start to think perhaps looking like you do isn't such a bad thing after all. If they crowned you queen and catered to your every whim and told you daily how stunning and awesome you are especially because you are short, eventually you'd believe maybe you weren't so hideous or whatever it is you've been telling yourself for so long.
or would you just convince yourself that everyone's lying and continue to have a sucky life? Your choice hon.
When I call myself a "freak" i"m not being self-derogatory. The term fits me, metaphorically and technically. My body is not normal by any stretch of the imagination. You don't have any specific condition, you're just short and you dare to act like your "disability" is so untenable despite my telling you it doesn't have to be that way? Who's really being dismissive? I'm realy sorry you're so full of animosity but that doesn't mean other people who carry similar disabilities (and worse) feel anything like you do. Don't put that on the rest of the freaks, we don't appreciate it at all.
Depression has been proven to be mostly chemical. I really think you should explore that fact and stop scapegoating a physical inconveniance. All its doing is hurting you. No one else is doing this to you, you are.
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Well, you'd be wrong. Take a look at the Little People of America.
Yeah, being different isn't usually a ton of fun but I haven't noticed it being a passel of suck either. As I said before, what sucks is other people's reactions. But people who react in a way that makes me angry or cringe isn't the sum total of my experience with non-freaks. And I'm not exactly the only disfigured person I know, I know other people who were subject to cruel ridicule worse than I ever got in my childhood (because my parents purposefully sent me to private schools where bullying and teasing were not tolerated in the slightest) That doesn't mean I have never been teased or bullied but I didn't have to deal with it every day all my childhood.
And I'm sorry you took everyone's attempt to help and support you in such a negative cynical way; the advice that its okay to be different is true, its just that not everyone respects that. Well guess what, there's assholes everywhere.
And if you think being short is the cause of your hellish upbringing you're probably only partially right. I have several friends, one of whom I am very close to, who are visually stunning. As in the kind of girl who gets asked "are you a model? you should be!" all the time. I see how she gets treated whenever we're together. But you know what? She was teased relentlessly in school because her family lives in a trailer park and she grew up trashy poor. She's a beautiful person inside AND out but the tales she's told me (and her family's told me) you'd never believe! because kids pick on whoever they feel like picking on and it doesn't matter what your weakness is because they'll exploit it regardless.
Your bitterness is all focused on being short. I'm not dismissing your pain at all and its annoying that you want to accuse me of that. I'm saying your focus is incorrect. You decided its all in the being short when really its all in the attitude of you and the people around you. If everywhere you went people exclaimed "OMG YOU ARE THE MOST GORGEOUS THING EVAR!" eventually you'd start to think perhaps looking like you do isn't such a bad thing after all. If they crowned you queen and catered to your every whim and told you daily how stunning and awesome you are especially because you are short, eventually you'd believe maybe you weren't so hideous or whatever it is you've been telling yourself for so long.
or would you just convince yourself that everyone's lying and continue to have a sucky life? Your choice hon.
When I call myself a "freak" i"m not being self-derogatory. The term fits me, metaphorically and technically. My body is not normal by any stretch of the imagination. You don't have any specific condition, you're just short and you dare to act like your "disability" is so untenable despite my telling you it doesn't have to be that way? Who's really being dismissive? I'm realy sorry you're so full of animosity but that doesn't mean other people who carry similar disabilities (and worse) feel anything like you do. Don't put that on the rest of the freaks, we don't appreciate it at all.
Depression has been proven to be mostly chemical. I really think you should explore that fact and stop scapegoating a physical inconveniance. All its doing is hurting you. No one else is doing this to you, you are.