I think their point was that following Jesus can be traumatic.

I'm not a Catholic, which you would know if you paid attention because I already told you in this post that I'm the same denomination you are. I do know the history of abuse in the catholic church though. It's not just the catholic church in which child abuse happens though so I don'y know why you are behaving as if it is.

of course churches do bad things sometimes, what would the point of church be if everybody was perfect?