I believe that being gay is a choice
Again I ask, if sexuality is a choice when did you chose to be heterosexual?

and no one has a right to tell the military what to do
Unless you support a military dictatorship then you bet we have a right to tell them what to do.

I still wonder how a conservative and a Christian can support someone breaking the law and violence quite so readily. These words you use I don't think they mean what you think they mean.