Oh, and p.s. if we are pulling out our family's respective military credentials and waving them around:

My father is a former Air Force officer who served on an overseas nuclear bomb base during the Cuban Missile Crisis and he thinks that *IF* your husband would protect men under his command from the consequences of disgracing their uniforms like then then he is unfit to command. I sincerely hope that he is a better officer than you've portrayed him.